The Boyfriend Conundrum

I have, over the years, relied heavily on white space to define my relationship with Noom, my bar boy friend (blah, blah, blah). You’ll note I just did it again. There is a gap between the word boy and friend, in fact the boy part of that phrase goes with the word bar, not with the word friend. It is a tiny amount of white space. Some would say it’s an unnecessary bit of white space too. What we share includes many of the hallmarks of a traditional boyfriend relationship. There’s love, respect, concern for the other’s well-being and happiness, and a commitment that binds that two of us together. But there is also distance, long periods of not being together, no pretense of exclusivity, and a financial basis that transcends the normal boyfriend paradigm. Noom is a bar boy. Who also happens to be my friend. One whom I love deeply. In what we share, that white space doesn’t matter. It has no effect on our relationship. But then neither of us is deluded enough to consider the other his boyfriend. The word without the white space. Perhaps, that Noom consider himself straight has something to do with that.
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I’m not a fan of organized religion. It’s not the religion part that I have a problem with, but rather the organized. Inevitably organizing a religion leads to a focus on gaining and maintaining power and accumulating and growing wealth with very little attention being paid to practicing what you preach. There is nothing wrong with faith, but sometimes the faithful worry me greatly; throughout history there have been more godless acts committed in the name of god than deeds that would make him proud of what he wrought.

Worse – because even your faith is all about me – organized religion has done a smashing job of screwing up the hearts and minds of the little gay boys of the world. It’s difficult to be gay when you’ve been taught by your church that being you means you are going to hell. Which most organized religions do teach. Even though god didn’t think Thou Shall Not Be Gay was quite important enough of a commandment to start on another tablet of stone. But maybe that omission was just due to an over-zealous editor.
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Recently married to her partner of 15 years, I’ve asked that they adopt me. I think it’d be cool to have a pair of lesbian for mothers. Especially rich ones.
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Nonetheless there are many who claim Dustin is too old for Tom, and many who say that it’s just a mentoring stage, that Tom will soon find someone closer to his own age to spread his legs for. Despite that May / December romances have been around longer than the Gregorian calendar whose months that brand of affair is named after. For centuries young men have turned to older men for the money, security, knowledge, and money they provide them. And older men have cast their gaze toward the youthful for their beauty. And because, as Sophie Tucker put it, “20 goes into 80 a hell of a lot more than 80 goes into 20. Read Full Article

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